LEADERSHIP & MARRIAGE

Seorang sahabat yang bertandang ke rumah Saidina Omar hairan melihat Khalifah Islam itu berwajah sugul bagai sedang memikirkan sesuatu. Lantas sahabat tadi bertanya, “Wahai Omar, apakah yang anda mushkilkan”. Omar menjawab, “Aku bimbang sama ada aku telah menjalankan tugas ku sebagai pemimpin negara dengan baik”. Sahabat menyakinkan bahawa, “Wahai Omar, engkau telah memimpin negara ini dengan sebaik mungkin mengikut landasan dan lunas Islam”.

Mendengar balasan tersebut, Omar terus menarik tangan sahabat tadi dan memimpinnya ke muka pintu. Sambil mengajak sahabat tadi melihat ke luar, ke jalan dan seekor unta yang sedang melalui jalan tadi, Khalifah Islam itu berkata, “Kamu lihat jalan di hadapan ini dan unta yang sedang melaluinya. Aku bimbang jika jalan ini berlubang dan unta tersebut patah kakinya jika terperesuk dalam lubang tersebut, aku akan dipertanggungjawabkan di akhirat nanti.

Ini adalah seorang yang memimpin cara Islam. Takut hanya kepada Allah s.n.w. dan bukan takut kehilangan undi pilihanraya.

Pada 21 April 2011, lebihkurang jam 2:15 petang, berlaku kejadian tanah runtuh di Batu 14, Jalan Felcra Semungkus, Hulu Langat, Selangor, yang telah menimbus hingga maut 16 orang pelajar belasan tahun yang berada di Rumah Anak Yatim Hidayah yang terletak di kaki bukit yang runtuh tersebut. 16 remaja yang tidak berdosa maut kerana kecuaian pihak berkuasa yang tahunya hanya menubuhkan suruhanjaya siasatan selepas nyawa melayang.

Di mana agaknya, anak-anak pihak berkuasa dan pemimpin-pemimpin ini bersekolah. Mungkin dekat lokasi yang telah disahkan selamat oleh NIOSH atau kemungkinan paling besarnya, di hantar ke luar negara agaknya. Lebih selamat, sejuk, kondusif untuk belajar dengan Bahasa Inggeris sebagai bahasa penghantar. Walhal anak rakyat tiada pilihan kecuali belajar dalam bahasa melayu sahaja. At least, kaum Cina dan India yang kononnya di anaktirikan dan dipinggirkan, boleh memilih untuk menghantar anak mereka belajar dalam bahasa ibunda masing-masing kecuali anak orang melayu yang tiada pilihan kecuali melayu kaya yang boleh hantar anak mereka ke International School.

Akhirnya anak rakyat yang terkial-kial yes no alrightnya hanya layak kerja jadi mato-mato dan soljar aje iaitu bersamaan dengan jadi security guards untuk jaga keamanan dan keselamatan anak-anak pihak berkuasa dan pemimpin yang cakap orang putihnya berabuk dan dengan itu layak jadi tauke GLC yang menghabiskan duit income tax rakyat.

Cuba bandingkan kepimpinan Saidina Omar dengan pemimpin-pemimpin negara kita terutama dari yang cop BN. Ada macam Saidina Omar, Khalifah Islam ke?

The above anecdote is for you to ponder about the meaning of being the leader of a nation. Do you lead for your own personal gains or do you lead for the benefits of the rakyat. Talking about leadership, reminds me that a husband should be the leader in any marriage, unlike today ‘s marriages where cuckolded husband is the norm. Talking about marriage reminds me of my own marriage, where of course, I am the boss, meh!!

If anyone were to asked me how’s my marriage of 31 years, I would be lying if I said it is great and I would be a damn liar if I said it has been hell. “I am contented” would have been the standard answer. I am a subscriber to the adage that you are rich if you are contented with what you have, though there are times when I wished I could hit the TOTO jackpot of a couple of million ringgits.

If I can only afford a Kancil, eat a decent 3 meals a day, stays in a simple 3 room terrace house and watches RTM 1,2, TV3, TV 8 and TV 9 instead of ASTRO or going to the cineplex for entertainment, and I am contented with what Allah has given me so far, then I am a happy man. I will be happy because I won’t waste time cursing my luck or becoming green with jealousy at others who are living in bungalows and driving Maseratis.

Who wouldn’t be happy reluctantly watching Nur Kasih with your wife cuddling up to you and touching you here and there. Only then will you appreciate that Allah has actually been generous to you because, come to think of it, there are tycoons who can barely spend an hour or two, a day, with their family because they are busy making money, whose wife seeks comfort in the arm of another man. You suddenly realised that you are rich when it hits you that there are others who can even afford a bike, don’t know whether they’ll have that next meal and lives in discarded wood and cardboard abodes.

I am contented with the mrs of the last 31 years because whenever the temptation to be naughty arises, I have silently asked this question. “What is it that can be offered by this other woman that my wife at home cannot offer?” To date, the answer has always been, nothing. My wife has everything that the other woman can offer, so why should I destroy my marriage for a piece of pie on the side. My wife cooks, washes and iron my cloth, cleans the house and best of all, at our age (my wife and me), we still have a fun time bonking each other every other day.

On a final note, to women who doesn’t want your husband to go astray, do ensure that the other women in your husband’s life does not offer your husband more than what you can offer. After all men are like babies, give them something to suck on and they’ll be contented.

Adios!!!!!!!!!!.